Social Media Mindset: How to get one

Fairy MantraTalking with a client the other day, she commented on how positive I was and what had changed in my life to bring about this mind set change? Well, a good holiday sorts most people out was how I responded but my mind was working overtime on the question is there such a thing as a social media mindset? If there was, what would it look like? And how would you go about getting it?

Marketing your business is both a rewarding and challenging experience. You can wake up exhilarated to begin your day and go to bed feeling overwhelmed and frustrated. The key to success is to maintain a positive, yes I can do it, mindset. So how does that link in with social media?

Many social media users are overwhelmingly enthusiastic. I don’t know whether it’s because it’s a form of marketing they feel comfortable with or because that’s who they are naturally. I wonder if this is a learned behaviour grown from observing other social media marketers?

Can the social media mindset be created? Easier said than done, right?

Here are 5 keys to help you create and sustain a positive mindset so you attain the social media success you deserve.

1. Surround yourself with successful and positive people. I prefer to call this “surrounding yourself with smart people”. Preferably people much smart than you are.  The influence other people have over our own personal energy is amazing. Moods and attitudes are viral – think about how much of a difference a simple smile from a stranger can make for your day and then magnify it 1000 times to demonstrate the power of positive and successful friends, family and associates. When you have people around you who inspire you, believe in you and want you to succeed, there’s no room for doubts and even when they creep up, they’re quickly swept away.

It can be hard to find these people so look out for mastermind groups and small intensive courses that people you admire are on. When it comes to finding the courses look at the testimonials. If the testimonials are from people you’d like to network with and respect, then go and join in.

Look at your friends: are they friends for a reason? For a season? For a lifetime?

It can be hard working out why you are friends with some people, it may be misplaced loyalty, it may be because you think you owe them, it may be because you love them dearly. It can be any number of reasons, but in truth, if you have a friend who only ever moans and never “gives” it will wear you down. If you have several of them you have to look at your own motives – are you trying to “fix” them, do you enable them? Are you trying to change them?

2. Create a mantra or an affirmation. Repeating positive affirmations has been shown to get people through tough times and to actually help them truly believe what they’re saying. This is not faking it until you make it, it’s preparing your mind for what’s to come.

For examples check out Mocha Writes:

  • I am positive and prosperous-minded!
  • I feel strong, excited, passionate and powerful!
  • I contribute to the world in a meaningful way, and I am paid back a million-fold!
  • Because I am such a positive resource, people love doing business with me!

Many business professionals have used affirmations as part of their strategy to obtain success. To find the right affirmations for you, consider writing a quick list of your doubts, insecurities and complaints. These can then be quickly turned into affirmations, after all an affirmation is merely the positive to your negative.

For example, if you write that you’re always feeling helpless in business situations then your affirmation would be, “I am calm, confident and in control.”  Some people advise that your repeat your affirmations several times a day and feel the power of positive thinking, others advise saying them at set times like when you wake up or when you go to sleep.

If you are uncomfortable with a mantra, use a line from a song that you love. My favourite mantra came from a phone call with Jackie Walker… Breathe in fairy dust, breathe out flames. If you know me, you’ll know how crazy that mantra is and why it always puts a smile on my face when I say it :)

3. Capture negative thoughts. Negative thoughts, resistance, your inner demons – whatever you call them, remember they have the power (that you give them) to bring you down.  Capturing those negative thoughts takes practice and persistence. When you find yourself thinking negative thoughts or experiencing  negative emotions you need to work out the trigger, and then turn them around.

The affirmations mentioned above are a great way to flip the negative into the positive.

I’ve recently taken up the Havening Technique and find it works well for me.

Other things like listening to a beautiful, upbeat piece of music helps and if you are really feeling down then you should listen to Yazz and The Only Way is Up. Yazz will kick you out of any funk you are in. Music for many reasons can influence your emotions and make you feel calmer, more confident and more positive. Create a positive play list on You Tube, and when you next get a snarky comment or a tweet that has a go at you, then go and listen to it and then respond.

4. Set goals/intentions and then be willing to let them go. The law of attraction says that we attract what we focus on the most.  I’m not a big fan of the law of attraction, let me get that out right now. But desperation, whining, bitching about your business, sends mixed messages and allows a lot of negativity to surround you. Set your goals and intentions and then let them go.

Believe in yourself. Start loving yourself, because when you do that it shows and attracts in positivity and love towards yourself.

5. Be grateful and know what gratitude looks like. Some people think Gratitude is perhaps the single most powerful and positive tool for success. When people thank you and are grateful, acknowledge it. To dismiss it will make you feel unworthy, and you are worthy.

If you share an article on Facebook and it makes a difference to someone, and they thank you – accept it. You don’t know what they are going through, you don’t know what that may mean. And if someone shares something that impacts upon you positively, that saves you time or makes you feel better – tell them!

I’ve heard people recommend gratitude diaries and undertake 30 days of gratitude challenges, and they’ve seen positive change in thir lives. The reason that I suggest it is this:

When you’re grateful for all of the wonderful things & people in your life, the challenges you face seem significantly less important and are more easily dealt with

Success is within your reach and with the right mindset you can accomplish anything you set your sights on.

Over to you, is there such a thing as a social media mindset or is it group thinking?

Can you change your social media mindset and it impact upon you and your business or is it a load of old hokum?

Sarah Arrow

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  1. Hi Sarah,
    thank you so much for your great suggestions.

    I love your picture and the quote!

    The Havening Technique is new to me. Thank you for introducing this!
    It seems a more simplified version of the EFT I learned about ten years ago.

    Much appreciated!

    • Hi Yorinda,
      I’ve not tried EFT myself, I do enjoy the good vibes from the Havening though :)
      The quote always works for me. Thank for stopping by :)

  2. Hey Sarah,

    What a powerful article this is! I must start at being Grateful! I wake up every morning and before I get out of bed I think of things I am grateful for. It can be a long list or just one thing. The fact is that it became a habit and I think of it all day long. That grateful mindset opens positive doors with that good old Law of Attraction.

    Also, surrounding ourselves with positive people just enhances our positive mood. I have learned one thing and that is the word “NO” – Boundary setting is one thing I had to learn to keep those negative thinkers away from me. It just brings me down and I don’t like to enable that behavior.

    I also enjoyed the video. It is quite different than the EFT I went through. It is more soothing.

    Thanks for sharing,

    • Hi Donna,
      The negative thinkers have their place, or so I thought and then I realised if I gave them a million dollars the response would still be negative, everything would still be a problem :(

      Havening is lovely and makes you feel good when you feel low. I’m surprised it’s not more popular.

  3. Positive attitude adds more motivation to your confidence and enthusiasm!

  4. Love this article Sarah!

    You are sooo on the money (literally!) with your tips!

    Not sure what you meant about the law of attraction – but certainly it has been greatly misrepresented! I recommend you get hold of Think and Grow Rich – but it must be the ORIGINAL edition – not the publisher censored copy that circulated for decades – they took OUT the real information! Several modern reprints available. It’s really the Law of Vibration.


    • Hi Robin
      The misrepresentations are what bothers me about LOA. The law of vibration sounds so much better :)


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